Being Me: Week 51

Being Me:  Week 51 Be kind to unkind people, they need it most

December theme: Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of hope

When I finally understood that someone being unkind was more about them than about me, my heart softened a bit and I began to recognize the pain that must be going on inside that person.

And while it is hard to not take an unkind act personally, to understand it is not about us is the first steps in protection. For if we allowed someone else's bad attitude to change ours, we would be in constant upset since there is always someone you will come across that is not happy.

It is always the EGO we are fighting when it comes to a bad attitude, and when I can separate myself from believing their actions are against me, I can see that it is only their version of the moment. Not in a self righteous way either, this is not a moment to decide that we are good and they are bad. It is difficult to resist the urge to defend ourselves, yet often walking away is our best protection. 

I am constantly practicing the art of not allowing my emotions to get the best of me, and try instead to find a kindness approach and like most things, it is a work in progress.

Themes for each month to journal, create or contemplate on your journey

• January - The best time for new beginnings is now

1. Morning routine
2. Mission statement
3. Create your YES list
4. Goals, baby steps, tiny promises
5. Putting it in motion

• February - Before anything else, find yourself, be yourself and love yourself

1. Take care of your body
2. Meditation and solitude
3. Food choices and ideas for change
4. What makes you happy

• March - All you need is tea and warm socks

1. Enjoy the simple things
2. Letting go of thoughts and things
3. Both hands
4. Mindfulness (social media and smart phones)
5. Setting intentions

• April - Water your roots so your soul can blossom

1. Water and other things we need to grow
2. Time to blossom
3. The 3 R's
4. Forgiveness

• May -  The difference between a flower and a weed is judgment

1. Stop judging yourself and others (why we judge)
2. The grass isn't always greener
3. Love is the absence of judgement
4. Stop judging yourself if you don't want to be judged

• June - Believe you can and your halfway there

1. Believe in yourself
2. Believe in others
3. What thoughts have distorted our beliefs
4. Invest in yourself

• July - Bold stripes, bright stars, brave hearts

1. Integrity
2. Taking risks
3. Abundance
4. Let your light shine

• August - We are who we choose to be

1. Who do you think you are

• September - Sometimes we can learn and study & know, and sometimes we have to believe, trust and hope

1. What do you know to be true of you
2. Books that create thought
3. What holds you back
4. Trust yourself
5. Hope means your ready to see the good in tomorrow

• October - We can't become what we want by remaining what we are

1. Do the work if you want change
2. A mind stretched can never go back
3. Healthier is not just what your eating, but what you think and say
4. In the end we only regret the chance we did not take

• November - Small seeds of gratitude will provide a harvest of hope

1. Count your rainbows not your thunderstorms
2. What consumes your mind controls your life
3. Be grateful when things are going your way. Be graceful when they are not
4. Interrupt anxiety with gratitude

• December - Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of hope

1. Be the reason someone smiles today
2. Sometimes giving back can actually save you

 Mission Statement:  I will improve my overall health and wellness, use kindness and inspiration with a vision that creates  a community of giving and in doing so achieve my purpose in this life.   

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